A compatibility and readiness assessment for couples who are seriously dating, built on five decades of longitudinal marriage research. Take it before the engagement, when what you learn is still easy to act on.
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Partner not around? Try the 3-minute solo quiz and send them the link.
Most premarital programs reach couples after the ring, when sunk costs, social pressure, and announcement momentum make it hard to act on what they learn. The research says that is too late to get the full benefit:
You would not buy a house without an inspection. This is a relationship inspection, and the best time is before you sign.
Each partner answers 45 questions across eleven dimensions: attachment, emotional stability, family patterns, your relationship story, money, life plans, digital habits, conflict, repair, commitment, and mutual appreciation. Pair your phones with a QR code and answer at the same time, no waiting. About 15 minutes.
Money, values, in-laws, children, career, and phones. You each write your honest response privately on your own phone, then both screens reveal the two answers at the same moment, then you talk it through with guided prompts and privately reflect on what actually happened. This is where the real patterns show, because it measures behavior, not opinions about behavior.
| Typical online quiz | Established premarital tools | The Marriage Blueprint | |
|---|---|---|---|
| Measures behavior, not just opinions | No | No | Yes (scenario protocol) |
| Empirically derived couple types | No | Partially | Yes (cluster-analysis based) |
| Designed for before the engagement | No | No | Yes |
| Scores partner gaps, not just levels | No | Partially | Yes |
| Honest about its own limits | Rarely | Sometimes | Yes, in writing |
We deliberately did not build this on the Enneagram or MBTI. A systematic review of 104 samples found the Enneagram's nine types have never been recovered by factor analysis or clustering. Our types come from data on real couples.
The assessment follows the vulnerability-stress-adaptation model, the most-cited framework in marriage science. It holds that outcomes are not decided by any single factor but by the interaction of three:
Layer 1Enduring vulnerabilities. What each person brings in: attachment style, emotional stability, family-of-origin patterns, the story of how you got together.
Layer 2Stress landscape. What life will throw at you: money, major transitions, family pressure, the pull of your phones.
Layer 3Adaptive capacity. How you handle it together: conflict conduct, repair, and the structure of your commitment. This layer carries the most weight, because it is the one that best predicts outcomes and the one you can most readily train.